How to Know if He or She Really Likes You

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How to Know if He or She Really Likes You
by John “JT” Tan

Love is so unfair.

When you’re trying to be perfect for the one that you love, sometimes it may end up to rejection or the person you love might ignore you. But when you try to play with others, they end up falling in love with you, and the bad thing is, you don’t love or even like them.

I don’t know how to explain that situation. It’s just that the people who are mostly rejected are the ones who are really sincere. Maybe sincere people don’t know how to explain it or show it because they are shy.

Sometimes, we are so confused when the heart and the mind don’t coordinate well. However, I have observed some ways to help out because I have been in and out of love many time.  These are three things that I can consider on how to identify if that person really likes you.

First one is try to be with him/her.  Not in bed of course.  Try to be with him/her means try make him/her as your friend. The best way of knowing other people’s background, attitude and any other stuff is to be with them.

The next one is to be friends with his/her friend.  Sometimes, their friend can’t stop their talkative big mouth from “talking some shit,” especially when they are drunk, and their friends sometimes can be the reason for you to know about her and her feelings.

The third way to identify if that person really likes you is to stop being numb.  Stop being so picky.  Don’t set too much standard, or else you will lose those people who are really sincere.

Value your self a lot. If the person doesn’t like you then stop pushing yourself to them. There are billions of people in the world so don’t stick to someone who does not value you.  Learn on how to identify true people from impostor.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: John “JT” Tan is a former student of the American Institute for English Proficiency Quezon City Branch.


Road Rage in the Philippines with Gun and Knife

I ride the taxi all the time, and I have had some of the most bizarre moments.  However, this kind of situation would definitely scare the hell out of me.  Road rage is not uncommon, and it can occur anywhere, but when it is caught on video, it becomes a completely different story.  We get front row tickets to a real life movie, and we begin to discover human nature at its finest, or at its worst, in this case.

I am more forgiving than most drivers I know when it comes to undisciplined behavior on our roads.  My father, on the other hand, is less forgiving, and he demonstrates his road rage by speeding up and passing another driver, and finally cutting him off.  Fortunately, it never ended where the two vehicles would stop and altercation would ensue.  My father respected my mom too much for that as she was always in the front seat.  In fact, my father’s semi-road rage was the cause of many of their arguments.

In my case, I am pretty calm and composed, even when driving here in the Philippines.  At first, I was afraid to drive because of the traffic situation here, especially with the undisciplined drivers and pedestrians, but I finally mustered enough courage to drive around the chaotic streets of Metro Manila.  I stayed within the lines.  I signaled left or right when turning.  I followed the speed limits.  I did not cross on the red light, even when there were no cars around at 2 am.  Yes, I drove the same way I drove when I was in the US.

I don’t have a car right now because I got into an accident a few months ago, and my car was totaled.  I have been earning extra cash, trying to save up so I can buy one pretty soon.  As a result, I have been taking the taxi at least once a day, and my taxi budget is almost Php 10K a month.  So that’s a lot of riding the taxi.  That means I have had first hand knowledge on how taxi drivers behave.  Some of them were really nice, but many of them were horrible drivers, swerving, speeding, and cursing all the time.  They mentioned the word traffic as if they have never seen or been into one.   I have had situations where the taxi driver would even fall asleep at the wheel, and I have had to remind him to stay awake. I have also seen how other drivers cut each other off, and it seemed that they didn’t mind since they, too, cut others off.  Just a vicious cycle of poor discipline.

To not be so stressed out with these moments, I focus on surfing the net with my phone until I get to my destination.

So what would bring two grown men to have the audacity to stop in the middle of traffic and threaten each other with a gun and knife?  And just when you think that the situation has been pacified, what would compel a man without weapons to chase and pursue another who just threatened him with a gun and a knife?

What do you think?